The other day a good friend asked me to set her up with a well known actor that I'm friends with (no, it was not George Clooney.) I explained to her that I didn't think he would be the right fit since he is a playboy and she is looking to settle down. She insisted that if he got to know her, he would change his mind because she would be perfect for him. And herein lies the problem. I've finally decided to write about this very crazy phenomena in LA.



I have so many beautiful, smart, funny, interesting SINGLE women friends who all say the say the same thing, "There are no good men in LA." I even had a friend go so far as to move to England in search

of a "good man" and after a year ended up back in LA single.




So is the problem that there really are no good men in LA? I think not. I was married to a good man for many years. Unfortunately we had to go our separate ways but not because he wasn't a good man. He stopped by my new shop the other day to see how Fab it is and he's still a good man. And here is the even more amazing part, since we went our separate ways I have dated some really good men, I would say great but since none of them are leading a revolution and aren't Abraham Lincoln, I'll stick with really good. And 3 of these really good men, yes 3, wanted to get married. What you say? Are you an anomaly? Nope. Are you a super model? No, I'm cute but no super model. Then you must be Hilton rich. No, not that either.



So why is it that I can find these good men and many of my friends can't? The answer is really quite simple, I'm not trying to date George Clooney and change his mind about being a long time self-proclaimed bachelor. And neither were three of my dear friends, all over the age of 40, who recently all got married for the first time to really good men. I can already see what you are thinking, "Over 40, really? How good are these men?" I'll tell you. These men are kind, sweet, loving, good looking and the amazing part, one owns a vineyard North of Santa Barbara, one works with solar energy and the other is a professor, all are financially secure and adore their wives. Yes, it is true.



Now you are asking yourself, "How do you find these good men in LA?" It's quite simple - be realistic. I'm not talking about settling, never, but it's about not living in a fantasy world either. I will give you an example. A single friend of mine, with 3 grown kids, just told me that she won't date anyone who is bald, graying (that

rules out George) or doesn't have a 30 to 32 inch waist. You may think I'm kidding but I'm not. Therefore, she's ending up with a lot of hotties but then complains that they aren't relationship material, really? Is it so important that the men have it all? And if your answer is yes, then do you? For me it's about figuring out what's important and then going for that and personally I like the bald ones - more virility.



My conclusion is if a woman is out there hoping to land George Clooney or Brad Pitt or their version of the equivalent then the chances are the men she will meet will be looking to land Angelina Jolie or Charlize Theron or their equivalent. There is only one George Clooney and one Halle Berry (Who by the way, I ran smack into at the Emmys last year and I audibly gasped. She really is that gorgeous in person.) Therefore, I think it's important to broaden the horizons a bit - dontcha think? And just a reminder, George Clooney doesn't want to get married, even if he gets to know you.



About Beth LaMure
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Beth is a screenwriter living in the Hollywood hills and also a Shop owner or as she likes to call herself, "Shop Girl" .
Beth is a recurring signature contributor to LA.COM